Everyday circumstances show that sometimes people respond to some conflicting motives to one another. For example, at one time a person has a motive to learn, but also has a motive to see the movie. In such circumstances there will be a contradiction or conflict within the person between a single motif with other motifs. So the motive of conflict that would occur if there were several objectives to be achieved simultaneously.
When individuals experience a variety of motifs there are some possible responses that can be taken, namely:
1. Selection or rejection
In the face of a variety of individual motives can take a decisive election. In the selection of an individual firm is expected to situations where the individual must provide a response (selection or rejection) of some kind of object or situation at hand. If between the various objects or situations are so obviously different from the strict selection will not be much trouble but the smaller the difference between the various objects, will be increasingly difficult individuals in making decisions, so that individuals will experience conflict.
If the individual has two kinds of object or situation, the possibility that individuals can take the response is compromise, which combines both types of object. But not all objects or situations can be taken or decisions that compromise response. In the event that an individual should take this final selection or rejection of the firm.
3. Doubt doubt
If the individual is required to conduct the election or rejection between the two objects or a bad thing or good, it often arises indecision or hesitation on the individual, as if the individual swings from one poll to another pol. Individuals almost decided almost take that one, but that another party is also, until the individual feels difficult to let go. Confusion occurs because each object has a positive value or negative value, both had some beneficial aspects, but also has facets or harmful properties. Selection or rejection of the hard usually contain two kinds of properties such that, as has been stated in the problem of conflict, both contain elements of a profitable but also contain harmful elements. Suppose a young man facing election between two girls that are equally good. Both the girl caught his attention and he wanted, all have properties that are equally strong. Such a situation is what lead to indecision or hesitation on the young man. Selection of a compromise can not be retrieved. As if the boy has been swinging from one object to another object, individuals experiencing conflict.
Vacillation or hesitation generally unpleasant for the individual and sometimes confusing to evoke a sense of the psychic state of individuals experiencing barriers or distractions. This situation can be overcome by an individual to take a decision taking into consideration and thorough examination of all aspects of these objects, all profit to lose, so it may need to make a list of reasons to thereby ruling shows that the best possible decision.
But sometimes it lasts forever be in doubt until the very disturbing individual. Because it is sometimes individuals make decisions in a haphazard course, because individuals assume that the existence of a decision will be better than no decision at all.
But there is also another possibility of the individual to temporarily suspend the issue, up to individual would face in a quiet objects, individuals will be guided by his conscience in making decisions. Basis of decisions taken conscience has certain properties, namely:
a. Nature is more irrational, sometimes can not be explained with the ratio of why such decisions were taken.
b. Are subjective, the decision applies to the individual. So the possibility of some thing's decision can not be understood by others
c. In this decision which decided not mind, but out of the depths of his heart, from his conscience.