Listening Effectively

Man listening to for various reasons and for different purposes, the principles applied in effective listening should be different from one situation to another. Here are four dimensions of listening and illustrations fit the various models of listening to different communication situations.

a. Participatory and Passive Listening

Effective listening is the key to participate. Perhaps the best preparation for a participatory hearing is to act like someone who participates (physically and mentally) in the act of communication. It may sound trivial and redundant, but, in practice, this is probably listening to an effective rule of the most neglected.

Keep in mind how the human body reacts to important news. Almost immediately he would take an upright position, tilt your body to Arabic speakers, and relatively speaking. Humans do this instinctively because in this way is considered to be the most effective listening. But this does not mean that listening should be tense and uncomfortable when listening. What is more important than physical alertness are mental alertness. As a listener, participation in the communication interaction is equivalent to the speaker, as people who are emotionally and intellectually ready to engage in the process of sharing meaning.

However, not passively listening is not helpful. Passively listening - listening without speaking and without direct talks with nonverbal ways - is a powerful way to communicate the acceptance. Listening to passively allow the speaker to develop thoughts and ideas in front of other people who received but did not evaluate and does not interfere.

Other forms and passively listening is just sit back, relax, and let the sound stimulation stroking without the use of energy means, and especially without direct stimulation of that at all. Listening to music is really for fun and not to make criticism is perhaps a good example.

 

b. Empathic listening and Objective

If you want to understand what he meant and felt someone, people need to listen with empathy (Rodgers & Fanson, 1981). To empathize with another person means to feel what they felt, involve the world as they involved. Only when humans can empathize so he can understand what another person entirely. Although for most situations empathic listening communication is the most advisable response model, there are times when people need to go further to measure the meaning and feeling according to objective reality.

c. Listen without judging and listen critically

Listening to effectively involve responses that are not good rate (nonjudgmental) and the critical. Humans need to listen without judging - with an open mind and and try to understand. However, humans also need to listen critically for the purpose of evaluation or appraisal. Clearly, people need to first listen to understand and refrain from making judgments. Listening with an open mind is very difficult as an example, listen to arguments against a particular belief or listen to popular criticism of the values. Furthermore, people need to listen to a fair (fair), although there are statements that are not in place will be pitched against.

However, if meaningful communication should be established, it is necessary to complete the act of listening with an open mind is the act of listening critically. Listening with an open mind will help settle the message better. Listen with a critical mind this understanding will help analyze and evaluate the message ..

d. Listening in a Shallow and the In

In most of the messages have a clear meaning that can be known by literally reading the words and sentences that were there, but often there is also another level of meaning. Sometimes the original meaning contrary to the literal meaning. Another time, two meanings seem completely unrelated. In fact, few messages that only have one level of meaning; most messages contain two or three levels of meaning at once. For example, Anna asked for your comments about the new haircut. On one level the meaning is clear: Do you like this haircut? But apparently there is another level of meaning, perhaps more important level: Anna expect you to say something positive about the appearance. In the same way, a father who complained about the busy and hard work in the office or at home might actually expect any awards. In a hearing should be very sensitive to different levels of meaning. If the only response to surface-level communication, it will lose the opportunity to make contacts more daring with feelings and real needs of the person concerned.