Self-Consciousness
If a man has to register the various qualities that wants owned, self-consciousness must occupy a high priority. All human beings want to know yourself better by controlling the mind and behavior. Most humans only up to a limit on the extent to understand ourselves or realize who he was.
Self-consciousness is the foundation for all forms and functions of communication (Kleinke, 1978). This can be explained very well through the Johari Window (Johari Window), (Luft, 1969, 1970). This window is divided into four principal areas or quadrants, each of which contains the self (self) are different.
Open area (Open Self)
Open areas (open self) contains all the information, behaviors, attitudes, feelings, desires, motivation, ideas and so forth that are known by themselves and by others. Kinds of information included here can range from the name, color, and sex someone up to the age, political beliefs and religion. Open areas of each person the amount will vary depending on with whom the person is communicating. There are people who make us feel comfortable and supported us; against them, we open ourselves wide. Against other people who we would prefer to close most of us.
The amount of open area also vary from one person to another. Some people tend to express their wishes and feelings are most deeply. Others prefer to remain silent both in terms of importance or not important. However, most of us, to open up to certain people about certain things at certain times. The smaller the first quadrant, "said Luft" (1970) "the worse communication." Communication depends on how far we open ourselves to our own. If we do not let other people know us, communication becomes very difficult, if not even impossible. We can communicate meaningful only if we know each other and also to know oneself. To improve communications, we must first try to enlarge this open area.
Changes in open areas or in any area or quadrant will result in changes in the other quadrants. Imagine a fixed size window, with a large per box can vary sometimes small, sometimes large. If one box becomes smaller, another box will become larger. Similarly, if one of the boxes become larger, the other box would be smaller. The regions themselves are, thus, are not mutually exclusive and independent. They each depend on others.
Regional Blind (Blind Self)
Blood blind (blind self) contains information about ourselves known to others but we ourselves do not know. This can be a little habits that says "you know" or hold, holding his nose when you are angry or anything else that is more meaningful as a defensive attitude, or experience pent.
Some people have a blind area is vast and seemingly unaware of the various mistakes he made. Other people seemed very worried if it has a few blind areas. They try to do therapy and follow all the activities of self-awareness group. While other people who think they know everything about themselves, believe that they have omitted this blind area to zero. There's more people who only pretend to want to reduce their blind areas. They expressed a willingness to hear about themselves, but the negative tone of comments just appear, they become defensive and self-defense. Most of us lies between these extremes.
Communication requires openness parties involved. If there are blind areas, communication becomes difficult. However, such areas will always be present in each of us. Although we may be able to shrink the area, eliminate them altogether is impossible.
Dark areas (Unknown Self)
Dark areas (unknown self) is part of the human self that is not known either by himself or by others. This is information that sank in the subconscious or something that is forgotten from the attention. Humans get a picture of these dark areas of a number of sources. Sometimes this area is revealed through temporary changes due to take medication, through a special experimental conditions such as hypnosis or sensory deprivation, or through a variety of projective tests or a dream. Exploration of this area through interactions that are open, honest and empathetic with a sense of trust with another person, parent, friend, counselor, children, lovers an effective way to get the picture.
Closed Area (Hidden Self)
Area covered (hidden self) contains all the things that humans know about yourself or about someone else but he kept just for himself. This is an area where humans produce all things about himself and about others. At the extreme ends, there are those who are too open (overdiscosers) and those who are too closed (underdisclosers). Those who are too open about everything. They do not keep secrets about yourself and about others. They will tell you the story of the family, sexual problems, marital problems, financial circumstances, objectives, successes and failures, just all kinds. The problem with those who are too open is that they do not distinguish between people who should and should not be heard this disclosure. Furthermore, they also do not distinguish the various information which they may express and the information that should they keep secret.
Those who are too close not to say anything. Next they will talk neighbor others but not on their own. They may feel that they are afraid of rejection, or may feel rejected because they do not want to trust others. Most of us different between these two extremes. We keep certain things and we open other things, we are open to certain people and we are not open to someone else. Basically, we are the ones that selectively open.
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