The Principle of "Turn Off" Barriers Verbal (Language)

a. Do the inclusion and avoid internal discussion

Verbal habits are annoying and disturbing is the internal call when there are others who are not members of the group present. Such as if a collection of children were gathered and discuss communication about communication theory and then suddenly their child's friends come join in the conversation economy was then sometimes they forget to adjust to the child so that the economy is not interesting conversation going like him. In any communication it would need to include every person in the interaction, in group talk service is an annoying habit.

b. Do equality and avoid conversation pejorative

Equality is the opposite view of communication on an equal footing physically, emotionally and intellectually. While downward-talk look at communications versus a lower position. Sometimes when someone does interrupt or cut the talk they are talking is a sign of degrading in a way that what he is talking about is more important than who said to his interlocutor.

There are 2 kinds of downward-talk or the way people degrading others for doing the communication, namely:

• Power play; is verbal maneuvers drop consists of three characters, namely:

o "No one is on top"; form of treatment that ignores the written and unwritten rules to someone.

o "You owe me"; a treat for someone to claim retribution for what she had done

o "He's like a goat", is a form of analogy or metaphor to equate someone with something bad.

• Gobbledygook; is demeaning behavior by way of saying complicated and confusing, or long-winded, so bury the message in a heap of words.

c. Do honesty avoid lying

Honesty is the submission of the meaning of the message as it is without any manipulation (referred to the intention to communicate). While lying is a wrong statement that is intended to deceive or something created to create the wrong impression. Why humans do disbelieving? There are two reasons the first is the attempt to avoid punishment for someone to avoid punishment by disbelieving in others. The second is to get certain benefits. In this context lie because it is driven by:

o Basic needs: lie to preserve objects that meet basic needs such as money, wealth, etc.

o Affiliation: lied to reinforce the desired affiliation and weaken unwanted.

o Self-esteem: lying to enhance self-esteem such as competence, image and sense of social acceptance.

o Satisfaction yourself: lie to achieve self-satisfaction as a lie for humor or to exaggerate things.

d. Do balance self talk and the other talk

The balance is balancing between talking about themselves by talking about other parties. Humans are egocentric beings as if what is on this nature is provided for fun and their interests. So the orientation is only talking about themselves, their own families and so forth. While there is an opposite condition of the man who does not talk about himself. This behavior is shut down. Even so people who have such properties have a great desire to know everything about other people. So that its orientation was talk of others.

Communication is a two way process, so ideally in communication sometimes talk about yourself (self talk), sometimes also talk about other people (other talk). Each participant must be the subject of communication but also given the opportunity to become the objects for effective communication can not be boring.

e. Confidentiality and avoid gossip

Confidentiality is keeping things that are privacy of third parties. The ethics of communication is not the right person to publish information about a person without his permission. So the ideal is to maintain communication of this principle and avoid gossip. Gossip is empty conversations or rumors about others who may cause serious problems if not handled in a fair and even unethical.

f. Confirm & avoid disconfirmation

Every human being has a need for respect and presence is recognized. Therefore, the confirmation must be done in any of interpersonal communication in the form of recognition of the presence of others and showing personal acceptance and pattern of relationships that occur. In contrast to communication patterns that occur can work well it is necessary to avoid disconfirmation of neglect the presence of others and what is communicated.